Holding on is like believing that there’s only a past; letting go and moving on is knowing in your heart that there’s a bright future ahead. Let’s take a look at eight ways to design the latter.
Letting go isn’t easy, especially if that person is meant for you, all signs show it, they keep appearing in your life without you thinking about them or looking for them. But if they don’t see this, if they don’t realize this or don’t want to see the light, there is not much you can do but try to move on, it will take time, it will take a lot of motivation and effort. I know one day I will be able to let go, he surely is NOT healthy for me neither is it to see he falls for fakes and those with not really a good heart and mind.
If you told the person you love how you feel and there’s no response, understand that there is little point in further contact. The ship has already sailed, and it’s probably for the best. If the person you love doesn’t dignify you with a response, you have to dignify yourself by moving on.
Talk to someone neutral who has been through the same situation. Maybe a best friend, or a parent, or a mentor. If you have to, go see a therapist. Venting your emotions and thoughts with someone neutral can be naturally healing and can help the ‘letting go’ process move along.
Deal with pain in constructive ways. Don’t pretend it’s not there. Find creative outlets, such as art or communication, to channel your pain into. Try to keep your mind off it most of the time, as fixating on your pain may make it worse.
My fingertips are still clinging on the foundations, but I know I will eventually be able to let go.